I was recently quoted in an Ask Men article about micropenises. You can check out the article to learn what a micropenis has, how many people in the US alone have them, and how someone with a micropenis can still have a fulfilling and enjoyable sex life.
What I wanted to discuss as a sort of follow up to this article is the topic I was more than happy to be quoted on:
“I have been in BDSM relationships with people with a micropenis, but alternative lifestyle or not, it is important to remember that sex is not defined solely by the penis penetrating an orifice,” says Faust. “Pleasure and orgasm can be had in so many other ways. Anyone who takes the time to learn these ways (what turns them on and gets them off, as well as taking the time to learn what their partner enjoys) puts them way ahead of the average person having sex. Remembering this and being open to playing with and experimenting with what gives pleasure gives hard truth to the saying that size doesn’t matter.”
When I tell people size really doesn’t matter to me, I’ve received some very negative feedback. Often its a simple eye roll and sarcastic remark. Other times I’ve been called a liar by complete strangers and then submitted to a rant about women who claim to not care but then laugh when a guy drops his pants.
I’m not saying size doesn’t matter to anyone at all. There are plenty of Size Queens and Kings out there who prefer a large penis. However, the argument and conversation around penis size is so bizarre to me as a bisexual woman.
Here’s the deal. I have been on the receiving end of some amazing sex with people who had no penis at all. I think men especially tend to forget that many people receive pleasure and are able to give pleasure without any penis involvement much less a huge one.
The conversation about penis and penis size also tends to be very man-focused. Articles and posts about micropenises or otherwise often leave out the population of people with penises who are not men.
I bring all of this up because I truly believe if men, and the people writing about men’s penises, would open the conversation up to people in the LGBTQ+ community they would learn a whole new and amazing perspective about sex and penises in general. Communication is an amazing thing. It can bolster a sense of self through new perspectives. I think in this instance especially, men worried about their penis size could certainly learn that truly size isn’t everything.